. Strategies for Success PTA meeting January 8, 2013

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Strategies for Success
PTA meeting
January 8, 2013
Susan Levine
Donna Brennan
Students - go with Ms. Brennan
Talk about organization and study skills
Parents – stay with Ms. Levine
Learn about your child’s brain and how best to help
them be successful in school
If I had a magic wand
The brain
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First Brain – Reflex brain
– Basic bodily functions – swallowing, blinking
– Fight an flight
– This part of the brain hijacks the brain under stress
At the McLean Hospital in Belmont, Mass., Deborah Yurgelun-Todd and a group of
researchers have studied how adolescents perceive emotion as compared to adults. The
scientists looked at the brains of 18 children between the ages of 10 and 18 and
compared them to 16 adults using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI). Both
groups were shown pictures of adult faces and asked to identify the emotion on the
faces. Using fMRI, the researchers could trace what part of the brain responded as
subjects were asked to identify the expression depicted in the picture.
The results surprised the researchers. The adults correctly identified the expression as
fear. Yet the teens answered "shocked, surprised, angry." And the teens and adults used
different parts of their brains to process what they were feeling. The teens mostly used
the amygdala, a small almond shaped region that guides instinctual or "gut" reactions,
while the adults relied on the frontal cortex, which governs reason and planning.
As the teens got older, the center of activity shifted more toward the frontal cortex and
away from the cruder response of the amygdala.
2nd Brain – Feeling Brain
• This is the part of where emotions live
• In puberty – the flux of hormones – make the
lows and highs more extreme:
Teens experience their emotions
at twice the intensity of adults.
While you probably don’t want to
allow your teen’s emotions to
rule the house, it can be helpful
to give them a break and apply
some empathy when emotions
are high
Moody middle schooler
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Parent Share
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Expert advice:
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Try looking back: Take some time to reflect back on your adolescent years. Try to remember some
of the overwhelming emotions and feelings of inadequacy you experienced. Although much is the
same, today’s adolescent faces complicated situations and pressures we never thought possible.
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Find support: One of the most helpful things you can do for yourself and your teen is to connect with
other parents who are in the same position. You will feel better once you know you are not alone in
this struggle and that your teen’s mood swings are typical adolescent development.
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Consider brain development: Although hormones get blamed for most of the moodiness
adolescents experience, new scientific evidence proves that brain development plays a very
important role. The last area of the brain to develop (in the early 20’s) is the frontal lobe where
impulse control, judgment, and decision-making lie. The brain has yet to catch up with their changing
bodies.
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Teach your teen to journal: Your teen cannot always justify his emotional reactions or tell you why
he feels the way he does. Encourage him to keep a private daily journal. This will enable him to
release some of his emotional overload and stress in a safe productive way.
More advice
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Be accessible: Let your teen know you are available to talk. Do more listening
than talking and try not to lecture or belittle his experience. Judgment will only
alienate your teen, and he will not be as likely to come to you in the future.
Don’t take it personally: Keep your cool and don’t overreact to your teen’s tone of voice or
words. Calmly remind him that to get respect he must show respect. Teach him the
importance of an apology and don’t hesitate to give one yourself if you need to.
Give plenty of space: Oftentimes parents want to rush in and do everything possible to help
their teen through a dilemma. The best course of action may be to step back and let him
figure things out for himself. This lets him know you believe he can make appropriate choices
and that you have confidence in his judgment. Praise him when things turn out well.
Watch for serious behavior changes: Although mood swings are typical don’t overlook
prolonged depression, erratic behavior, failing grades or suspected substance abuse. Be
prepared to seek out professional help if needed.
3rd brain – thinking brain
• Surrounds the other two parts of the brain
• Thinking…knowledge …skills..memory…retrieval
skills…CONSEQUENCES
• Not fully developed until 18-25
• When you ask your middle schooler “What were you thinking?”
• They were not thinking!!!!!
• We need to help them think – look beyond today and at
consequences for actions
What does this mean?
Don’t have brain maturity
– LESS LIKELY TO – stay organized
– Show responsibility
– Plan
– Prioritize
– Evaluate consequences
We don’t know the effects that technology will have on kids
– Multi task?
– How do they process it?
– Do they have to have graphics?
– Instant gratification?
What are your concerns?
Tips and tricks
• Need to learn how to study
• Need to learn how to organize
• Metacognition – middle schoolers respond well to
learning how we learn
• Evaluating self – did I learn that ? What should I try
next time?
• Relate learning to the world of ME
• Small amounts at a time – with repetition
• Peer study groups (because you don’t know
anything)
• Choice
More tips and tricks:
• Treat your teen with respect.
• Listen with your head and your heart.
• Allow your teens to express their emotions.
• Be comfortable exercising your authority and your
flexibility when appropriate.
• Get help when you need it…getting help from a
professional is a sign of strength, not weakness.
•Allow others to play a role; it really does take a village to
raise a child.
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Secrets to Success in Parenting Your Teen by Sue Blaney t www.PleaseStoptheRollercoaster.com t www.ParentingTeensInfo.com
Ms. Brennan shares for the kids.
• QUESTIONS?
• http://quizlet.com/